Are Men’s Friendships Always Driven By Attraction?

So... what Harry told Sally was right? A man can never be just friends with a woman... attraction gets in the way.

(Telegraph) Men’s friendships with women ‘driven by sexual attrraction’

7:21AM BST 25 Jul 2012

Men’s relationships with their female friends may be fuelled by an undercurrent of sexual attraction regardless of whether they are single but the feeling is not mutual, a new study suggests.

Women are more likely to consider their friendships with men as platonic and only hope that they develop into more if their own relationship is in trouble, researchers found.

Their findings echo the plot of 1989 film When Harry Met Sally, in which Harry, played by Billy Crystal, tells Meg Ryan’s character Sally: “Men and women can’t be friends because the sex part always gets in the way.”

Scientists said the results of the study, reported in the Daily Mail, showed “potential negative consequences” for people in long-term relationships.

Changing social patterns in the spheres of work, higher education and leisure activities have seen friendships between men and women reach unprecedented levels, they said.

But a deeper-lying mating instinct, developed over hundreds of thousands of years of evolution, could make them more complicated than they might seem.

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